Manifestation is a technique concerned with bringing the things you desire into your life by force of will. Of course, many people want love, and that can be manifested, too. However, love isn’t a physical thing, so the way we should go about manifesting it (and the way it comes into our lives) is a bit different than your typical physical manifestation.
In this article, we’ll look into the importance of love in our lives, how we can manifest love, the ethical implications of wanting to manifest love, and how manifesting love is different from manifesting other things. By the end of this guide, you should have an excellent grasp of the ups and downs of manifesting love, relationships, and other emotions.
The Importance of Love
Love is a basic human need, and it’s actually been linked to certain aspects of psychological development. If we don’t receive love and affection during our developmental stages, we run the risk of growing up with psychological problems. This need for love continues into our adult years, too; while love is less important because our brains are no longer developing in the same way, it’s still something that we need to function and be happy.
However, different people need different amounts of love, affection, and attention to be happy. Some rare humans survive in near-solitary conditions and are perfectly happy to be that way, while others feel alone if they spend merely a day by themselves. There is nothing wrong with either of these people, as all of us fall somewhere on that spectrum and have our own unique requirements for love.
What’s more, the requirement for love is linked to several other feelings and emotions, too. If this chain is disrupted, we can have trouble accessing these emotions. Obviously, this is not healthy at all! Among the feelings that love is linked to are:
It’s up to us to determine how much love and support we need to be happy and clear of mind. When we don’t have enough love and support in our lives, we can quickly end up feeling lost, lonely, and depressed. Likewise, if we don’t have any meaningful connections to others, we can sometimes feel isolated within a sea of people. Closeness is just as important as love in these situations.
Manifesting love provides an excellent solution to this problem, but the idea of manifesting love can sometimes raise some moral questions. Is it right to ask the universe to send us love? Is that too close to forcing someone to love us, or is it okay? We will do our best to answer these questions, but you must also come to your own conclusions before moving forward.
The Moral Implications of Manifesting Love
The words “manifesting love” can inspire a bit of a sour feeling. After all, love is an emotion that should flow free and unprompted from its source. Asking the universe to manifest more love for us, then, seems a bit strange at best, and even somewhat immoral at worst.
However, when we say “manifesting love,” we don’t mean that we’re asking the universe to find and provide love for us. While this is typically what we try to do when we practice manifestation, when love is the object, things work a bit differently. The universe cannot tamper with free will; therefore, it cannot make someone love us, hate us, or appreciate us any more than they did before.
If the universe were able to alter the free will of others, asking it to manifest love or other feelings for us would indeed be morally questionable. However, since this is not possible, you can ask the universe for love without calling your morals into question. Instead, the universe is very adept at sending compatible people into our lives when we need them most.
As such, we may not know it right away when the universe manifests love, companionship, or friendship for us. Sometimes, the universe can try, and we might not give that person the time of day, and the universe’s effort ends up wasted. Such is the nature of manifestation in general. However, it is well and truly possible to manifest love in our lives if we follow the proper steps.
Manifesting Love in Your Life
If you’ve heard of manifestation before, you probably know that it starts with something called the Law of Attraction. The Law of Attraction, in essence, states that like attracts like – if we give off feelings of love, they will return to us. Manifestation builds off this law in several different ways, but the important takeaway here is that, if we think about and show love enough, we will eventually find it.
However, if we want to take full advantage of what the universe sends our way, we need to change the way we operate a bit first. Like all manifestations, the ability to manifest love in your life is dependent upon how willing you are to accept new opportunities, engage in new activities, and change your way of thinking.
If you attempt to manifest something but remain staunch in your previous ways, for example, the universe could very likely send something your way that you unknowingly refuse. Consider the following cases:
- A student gets invited to a pool party but refuses to go because they don’t know anyone there. They don’t understand that the universe had arranged for them to meet their match at the party.
- A working executive decides not to pick up a particular project, not knowing that their project partner would be the love of their life.
- A mother of three declines to go to a parenting seminar because she believes she is already the ideal parent. However, she misses out on making valuable, lifelong friends there.
This aspect of manifestation – the need to broaden your horizons and expose yourself to new things and situations – is particularly important when trying to manifest love. The reason for this is because, as we said, the universe cannot spontaneously create love. The universe can arrange things so that our lover crosses paths with us, but we must produce the love ourselves.
Being open to new situations is just one of the many things we must change before love can manifest in our lives. In the sections below, we will go over several more of these changes.
Letting Go of Control
Letting go of your controlling instincts is a big step on the road to any type of manifestation. Manifestation happens at the universe’s own pace and preference, so our own choices and ideas continually hold us back. We all have a preference when it comes to who we want to love and when they should appear, but it’s essential to find a happy medium between what we want and what the universe is willing to give.
For example, we might be looking to find love right away. Maybe you’re getting old and want to start a family soon, or maybe your house just feels too large without the presence of someone else in it. Unfortunately, the timeline for our manifestations is one of the first things we must give up if we expect to be successful.
Other things we may need to let go of or budge on to make our manifestations a success include:
- When our lover comes into our lives
- When they fall in love with us
- Whether they are ready for a relationship or not
- Some physical, mental, or emotional traits
We’re not saying that you should compromise on all of the things you want from love. When it comes to love, you are entitled to be as picky or as accommodating as you please. However, it is essential to realize that the pickier we are, the longer it may take for the universe to send our perfect person our way.
Put Yourself First
Putting yourself first is a significant step on the path to accepting love from others. If you’re continually wearing yourself out by serving others and taking no time for yourself, you will feel burnt out when your special someone comes along. It’s essential to know yourself and be in your best form when someone that the universe sends your way comes along.
Putting ourselves first is easier for some people and harder for others. While we did say that you should give love if you want to get love earlier in this article, this only applies to a certain extent. If you are losing yourself for the sake of others, you have gone too far. The universe expects and appreciates when you make the world a happier, more loving place, but it doesn’t want you to ruin yourself in the process.
Think about the last time you put yourself first. Maybe a friend of yours asked you on a date, but you just weren’t interested in them in that way. Perhaps you were invited to a party, and you didn’t feel much like going, but you knew it would broaden your horizons, so you went.
As such, putting yourself first doesn’t just involve doing whatever you feel like in the moment. Putting yourself first means helping yourself grow, change, and develop as a human being, too. The universe respects progress and effort, after all.
If you’re looking to find love, courtesy of the universe, you had better be fully committed to a relationship with someone else. There are several reasons for this: one is if you’re not fully committed to a relationship, yet you still wish for one, the universe will not honor your wishes; two is if you’re not committed to what you’re asking for, you will only cause hurt to the other person.
If you are looking to find love from another person, romantic or not, you need to provide love to that other person, too. This is part of the fairness of the universe. There are plenty of other things you will need to commit to, also, such as:
- Improving yourself and becoming a better person
- Spreading love and happiness to those around you
- Being a good friend or lover to the person the universe sends
- Taking care of any fears or baggage holding you back
In addition to all of the above, you need to be committed to the universe and manifestation in general, too. Manifestation is not something that happens overnight; more commonly, manifesting love requires years of commitment before it pays off.
Set Your Expectations
Whether you’re looking for love or friendship, setting forth with robust and realistic expectations is essential. If your own expectations are not defined, how is the universe supposed to provide you with what you’re looking for? Moreover, having your own expectations firmly in place will help you to recognize when the right person walks into your life.
A side benefit of defining your expectations of love well is that it keeps your mind and thoughts on the subject. According to manifestation, the more we think about what we want, the more those things are to happen. As such, thinking about our expectations, what we want, what we can tolerate, and what’s a deal-breaker keeps love and hope fresh in our minds.
However, it is vital to keep our expectations reasonable. The universe is mysterious, and while it could just as easily send someone to you that checks every one of your boxes, it could also send someone who toes the line. It’s essential to define what you can budge on, what you can’t tolerate, and what you absolutely must have in a partner, romantic or otherwise. If you’re looking for a romantic partner, this is especially important, of course.
When setting your expectations, it can be tempting to think about issues with past partners that might taint our view of what we want in our next partner. For example, if your ex-lover tended to flirt with others too much for your comfort, you might be tempted to specify that your future partner does not do this. However, a crucial aspect of manifestation is that what you think will become a reality. So, instead of dwelling on what bothers you in a partner, think about everything that you do want, instead.
Once you’ve set your expectations, the next exercise to try is to imagine everything that you’ve written down about your partner. What will they be like? How will they treat you? What will they like, and what will they dislike? What will they be good or bad at? It’s good to be specific as long as you remember that the universe may or may not adhere to all of these things.
While imagining what could be with someone else is an excellent exercise, it can quickly turn into fantasizing about the ideal person if we don’t keep ourselves in check. While waiting around for someone who ticks every box is possible (and entirely your choice), it’s more likely that the universe will send someone who doesn’t tick all of your boxes at first, but who ends up being an excellent fit for you in the end.
After all, adversity, dealing with other people’s differences, and learning about what others have been through has the potential to change you as a person. What you want on this day in your life may not be what’s best for you, and it may not be what you want in a few years, either. As such, if the universe sends someone your way, put some good, hard thought into how they’re good for you before you discount them because they don’t tick every box.
Practicing what you’ve already imagined is the next step on your journey to manifesting love. In other words, take the time to live out your day as if your soul mate had already come into your life. Do your best to feel the effects that a relationship would have on your life. This includes both physical and emotional effects!
Do your best to imagine the feeling that your prospective person would give you. If you’re looking for a supportive friend, they would provide bravery when you’re feeling nervous or anxious. If you’re looking for a lover, they might help you de-stress after a long day and make you feel important and loved. This step will be easier for those who have been in a relationship before, but that’s not to say that those who haven’t can’t succeed with this step.
Practice, practice, practice! The more you practice incorporating your significant other and your feelings into your life, the better prepared you will be when they do arrive. If you’re well-prepared, you can transition to a life with your manifested relationship in it seamlessly and efficiently.
Love is all around us every day. Some of the types of love we can see in the world around us if we take the time to look include:
- Romantic love
- Parental love
- Platonic love
- Love between friends
- Sibling love or familial love
The love we feel can be any kind of love under the sun, but the important thing is that we do feel it. We must be aware of the plentifulness of the love around us because if we are, we can turn that love into inspiration and fuel for our own manifestations.
Even with all of the bad things that exist in our world, love shines through and gives us respite and happiness. When we are aware of the love in the world and reciprocate by showing more love for others, we increase the love in the universe as a whole, and we attract more love to us, too. As we said, like attracts like – if we show love to the people and things around us, we will beckon more love into our lives.
Being aware of the love in the world around us actually has two distinct benefits: there’s attracting more love to us, which we just mentioned, and then there’s the awareness in and of itself. When we attune ourselves to the universe and make ourselves more aware of the love all around us, we organically change the amount of love we feel from the universe without actually affecting that number.
In short: just being aware of more love all around us makes us feel more loved than we did before. And like we said, when we feel loved, we attract more love to us. It’s a repeating cycle that benefits us and the world as a whole.
Leave Fear Behind
Fear of the unknown is a hurdle that frequently holds us back as human beings. Fear holds us back from manifesting our desires, and it also restrains us from reaching our full potential in a more general sense. When we fear something, we avoid it, shun it, or even try to dispose of it in our lives.
If we fear something related to our manifestations, we are similarly limited in reaching them. In the same way, if we are held back by fear from reaching our full potential, then we won’t be able to manifest well, either. Our ability to manifest depends on us constantly growing and developing as human beings.
As such, if we want to manifest well, we need to leave our fear behind. This includes many types of fear, including fear of the unknown, fear of making friends, fear of commitment, fear of social situations, fear of love, and many more. If you have a fear that commonly holds you back, the chances are that it keeps you from manifesting correctly, too.
There are many ways to work towards getting over our fears, but the difficulty with this is that the best method will be different for everyone. A therapist or another trusted advisor will be able to instruct you and guide you through leaving your fears behind so that you can reach your manifestation goals.
Arguably, one of the most critical steps on the road to being ready to manifest love is to “date yourself.” Dating yourself is an exercise that involves taking a long, hard look at yourself, your habits, and your traits, and then deciding if you would want to date yourself if you had the opportunity. If the answer to this question is no, then you have some work to do before you can manifest a successful romantic relationship.
If you do the “dating yourself” exercise and come up with things that you don’t like, it’s a good idea to make a list of them. If you were dating yourself, what about you would you not be able to tolerate? Try to target things like:
- Bad habits
- Trust issues
- Past baggage
- Attitude problems
- Commitment issues
- Problems with honesty
The above issues and more are widespread, even in relationships. You don’t need to be perfect, but the universe (as well as any prospective partners) will look more favorably upon you if you’re trying to make progress with yourself. A person who stagnates and refuses to improve as a person often does not make a good partner, after all.
A side benefit of this exercise is that you will be able to identify these qualities in any potential lovers, too. Bringing up these issues with your lover for the purpose of addressing them can help avert problems in the future, or it can help you steer clear of problem relationships altogether. Moreover, once you’ve done this exercise, you’ll be ready for your soul mate to walk into your life when they do come around!
Loving yourself goes hand-in-hand with dating yourself, as both are critical steps to take before you attempt to manifest love for yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you? Feelings of inadequacy within yourself can be problematic in a relationship, especially if you expect your partner to make up for those feelings.
Instead, taking the time to love yourself and appreciate yourself before someone else enters your life opens your heart and mind to love them even more. This is why dating yourself is so important; if you have feelings of inadequacy holding you back, dating yourself will help you figure out why so that you can address them. As you improve yourself, you will grow and change, and you will love yourself more as a result.
The combination of dating yourself and loving yourself can be likened to the process of a caterpillar changing into a butterfly. You might feel limited and inadequate when stuck as a caterpillar, but if you start the process of dating yourself and loving yourself, you can quickly turn yourself into a butterfly. Once you’re a butterfly, others will be able to see the beauty and uniqueness within you, too.
Love is a tricky thing with many connotations. When not approached carefully, love can quickly become a sticky, messy business, but if we walk into it with good intentions, expectations, and preparations, love can be one of the defining features of our lives. When we feel loved by someone, whether that’s a significant other, a parent, or a friend, we feel supported, appreciated, and completed.